Advice For Alienated Parents During The Holidays – 5 Empowering Tips
I cannot promise you that a miracle will occur with your children this holiday season. What I can do is urge you to have a positive impact on your children’s lives in a different way. Even though the holidays are really difficult for you, remember you are a survivor and you can survive this time of year
Here are 5 tips to survive the holiday season as an “Alienated Parent”.
1. Put Your Children First
If the alienating parent is making it extremely difficult for you to see your children, make sure you do your job of keeping them out of the middle. Put your kids first. As hard as it is, refrain from placing them in the place to choose between you and the alienator.
2. Focus on the Time You Have
Do not get caught up on how much time you have with your children. Focus on the quality of time you will spend together. Find a way to make your time meaningful and special.
3. Be Flexible
Compromise with the alienator. Yes, you heard me. If you cannot manage to arrange to see your children on the exact holiday date, celebrate a day later. Believe me, the exact date is probably more important to you than your kids. This also creates a special day for all of you.
4. Take Care of Yourself
This is extremely important or else you will find yourself curled up in a ball crying through the holiday season. This helps no one; especially you. Get enough sleep, exercise and keep busy. Spend time family and friends if you cannot be with your kids. Be kind to yourself.
5. Keep Trying
If you cannot see your kids during the holidays, do not give up trying to reach out. Send gifts or a card. Do not let your anger and disappointment hold you back from contact. In the card write, “I am thinking about you this holiday season and hoping that we can see each other next holiday.” Do not write a card that says, “I am very disappointed that you did not come to see me this year.”
Remember during this holiday season to reach out to your kids even if they say, “I hate you.” Most of the time, they are just repeating what they are being told. Please try to find some comfort in knowing that you are doing everything in your power to reunite with your kids.
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